Chemistry Doesn't Equal a Healthy Relationship

How “hot,” funny, charming, nice or sexy someone is doesn’t mean they have the capacity to provide you a safe space that promotes growth, where you can feel supported, heard, and beautiful / invincible.

If you want your relationship to move forward (be healthy), both people need to know how to work together, be in sync. And this has nothing to do with how attracted you are to that person. But it does have everything to do with how that attraction will fade. Rowing in sync requires tools. This includes the ability to practice active listening, transparency, metacognition, and vulnerability. They must know how to fight fair and try to understand before being understood. If you want to discover all the wonders of the sea, make sure he / she has tools.