Truth

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Without friends...

Without friends my life would be dull and depressing.
So grateful for the ones I love and am loved by.

<3

State Your Name 2 hrs. full Graffiti movie

7.1.12

This night changed my life.

I am in charge of my destiny.

"Coincidences are G-d's way of staying anonymous."

"Faith: belief in the unseen."

"The energy that is making great things happen in your life doesn't have to be affirmed, it just is."

G-d, the things humans do to each other and to this planet is so ugly. Please elevate our human consciences and consciousness and awaken us to what is truly important in this life. Let us hold onto each other in real love and no longer be passive but rather individually and collaboratively glorious and positive agents for positive change in this world before things get even worse and we continue to lose our souls... amen.

I have a Pinterest!

You should never make a wrong person a priority.

Tattoos over time

Tattoos are like a fine wine... they only get better with age. The ink you get now will forever tell the story of your life and that story only gets more interesting as you develop into the person you set out to become. Sure, as time goes on...your tattoos are probably not going to look like they did when you were younger, but then again, neither will you. You'll just have decorated wrinkles and that cherry may become an apple but it is the journey you show through ink that reveals just how special you are.

"You'll look like a silly old lady with tattoos!" Honestly, I am going to be more concerned with getting to the bathroom in time than on how I look to people. Instead of worrying about trying to look like a "normal" senior citizen...be you! If that means you'll be riding out life tatted till' those wheels fall off than good for you. Be an awesome older person with tattoos and stories to tell about what inspired you to get them.

http://www.afropunk.com/profiles/blog/show?id=2059274%3ABlogPost%3A933079&commentId=2059274%3AComment%3A933129&xg_source=activity

You were meant for something bigger than this.

It is 11:53 am on a Friday, September 21, 2012.
This morning has been so incredible so far because I have made it incredible.

I am in a maturing phase where I am taking greater responsibility for my own life.
I am accountable to myself for my joy.

I am growing a lot as a person.
And today as my self-esteem is growing, I realize that I am a goddess.

All womyn are goddesses.
They must recognize that internally.
The world recognizes it for them.
And they share their sacred energy with the chosen.

Mortality Salience

Mortality salience is a term which describes awareness of one's eventual death.

Mortality salience has the potential to cause worldview defense, a psychological mechanism which strengthens people's connection with their in-group as a defense mechanism. This can lead to feelings of nationalism and racial bigotry being intensified. Studies also show that mortality salience can also lead people to feel more inclined to punish minor moral transgressions. One such study divided a group of judges into two groups — one which was asked to reflect upon their own mortality, and one group which was not. The judges were then asked to set a bond for an alleged prostitute. The group who had reflected on mortality set an average bond of $455, while the control group's average bond was $50.[1]

Another study found that mortality salience could cause an increase in support for martyrdom and military intervention. Tom Pyszczynski et al. found that students who had reflected on their mortality showed preference towards people who supported martyrdom, and indicated they might consider martyrdom themselves. They also found that especially among students who were politically conservative, mortality salience increased support for military intervention but not among students who were politically liberal.


A recent study however decided to expand on terror management theory and focus on an aspect known as postself rather than afterlife beliefs. According to the study "postself" is more indicative of oneself "I" and how "I" will be remembered after death. Comparatively this idea of postself does not involve an essence bigger than oneself but simply an individual self and their continuum after physical death. This study found that like the original literature on terror management theory perceiving one's postself also provides protection against mortality concerns just like the hedge provided by religious beliefs .

Self-esteem may in fact reduce the effects of mortality salience.

^ a b Harmon-jones, E., Simon, L., Greenberg, J., Pyszczynski, T., Solomon, S., & McGregor, H. (1997). Terror management theory and self-esteem: Evidence that increased self-esteem reduces mortailty salience effects. Journal of personality and social psychology, 72(1), 24-36.

If you want to see my thoughts while my honey is deployed, you can: http://jbaltbfdeployed.blogspot.com/

It was just another story of love and love and fear. Fell in with both feet. And would I do it again?

Falling in love with the wrong person seems like a bad idea.

- Feng shui your life. Clear out what’s not working and make room for what does. Finish projects that have lingering in the ethers for too long.
- Revitalize your relationships. Where have you checked out? Wake up.
- If you haven’t already found it, develop your life purpose. We all have gifts. The most satisfying lives allow us to give them.
- Expand your powers of attraction and creation. Become more conscious of how you effect your environment. We’ll work together with meditation and other practices to cement your role as the creator of your reality

Clean up your life, clarify what you really want in a partner and attract that into your space.

http://kimanami.com/1on1-with-kim/life

Clear, trustworthy minds. Build that relationship with them.

There are few things in life more rewarding than finding someone you love, who loves you, who knows you and over the years, through all the difficult life experiences, is your ally and your friend and your sounding board and your lover. Those kind of relationships are hard to find.

Be you. Don't try to be anyone else.

Also, live your life with pleasure and do what you love and what is important to you. Work hard, play hard, don't be waiting for someone to complete you. Complete yourself.

A great marriage is really a dream for most. It takes honesty -- knowing and presenting who you really are. It isn't for everyone; it takes effort and a great deal of compromise and patience.

Dreams are for when you are asleep. Life is what happens when you are awake. It's never what you expect. Enjoy it.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/robin-amos-kahn/a-husband-a-house-a-mortg_b_1822619.html

How to Minimize Negative Energy in Your Life

I am all about giving second, even third chances, but sometimes there just comes a point where cutting someone out of your life is the ticket to your self esteem and happiness. No one deserves to drive away all of your positive energy, so don’t let them.

Never forget that what you chose to focus on gets lit up with the spotlight that is your intention, and you have the power to decide where that spotlight is pointed. Try to tackle hardships with sensibility rather than letting them get the best of you, because most things in this life can be overcome if we chose to do so. I see our energy as an internal flame that can be burning bright or barely flickering. Commit to grabbing the steering wheel of your life and driving towards the things that ignite that fire, and away from the things that douse the flames.


http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-3656/How-to-Minimize-Negative-Energy-in-Your-Life.html

How closely do your dreams and ideals match your reality?

Who is responsible for bridging that gap?


http://kimanami.com/are-you-creating-your-world/

I wish I didn't let myself fall so hard for you.

“A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” -The Twits

Those who don't believe in magic will never find it.

-Roald Dahl

Closed

Not the kind of person I am..

Nothing much to say other than:
It's life.
And so it goes.

Every day

Every day is like a roller-coaster
A quest from the moment I wake
To figure a little bit more of "life" out
And by the time I go to bed
I have settled with my head
Responsibilities met
Anxieties aside
I say "good night world"
Dream unpleasant dreams
And wake up for the next ride

JB

Today is the 11th anniversary of 9/11. Remembering the lives lost, the sacrifices made, and the unity and compassion that followed the horrible events. We will never forget.

SUCH a great day.

Life really is what you make it. Every day we must choose to be strong. To overcome. To be positive. To truly live the life that we have. To love. Thanks for all the people who are part of my life. I am sorry for all the times I've gone crazy on you, I am learning and applying. I care for you, my friends, and am excited for all the places we will take our lives =) Good day to you!

Today, I Begin a New Life.

1. Today, I Begin a New Life.
2. I Will Greet This Day With Love In My Heart.
3. I Will Persist Until I Succeed.
4. I Am Nature’s Greatest Miracle.
5. I Will Live This Day As If It Is My Last.
6. Today, I Will Be the Master of my Emotions.
7. I Will Laugh at the World.
8. Today, I Will Multiply My Value a Hundredfold.
9. I Will Act Now.
10. I Will Pray, But My Cry For Help Is Only a Cry For Guidance.

You will read it in a matter of hours. When fully explained, these 10 scrolls will help you restart your life.

Conclusion
Repeating these scrolls to yourself every day for 30 days is guaranteed to have some effect on your thinking, and thus your actions. If you really think you can change your life, and that your success depends on your habits and your attitudes, this book could start some very powerful changes. “I will not fail as the others, for in my hands I now hold the charts (the Ten Scrolls) which will guide me through perilous waters to shores which only yesterday seemed but a dream.” Mandino’s recognized that all successful people take on their own lives by “charting” or consciously choosing both the desired destination and the path to reach it.

The author encourages you to build good habits, to live according to the laws that govern abundance and to find a vigor and joy in life as we learn to stand at the helm of our ship charting its course into the safety of the harbor instead of just waiting for someone else to bring it in.

Never forget 9.11.01

Reminder to be true to yourself

“Something is always born of excess: great art was born of great terrors, great loneliness, great inhibitions, instabilities, and it always balances them.”

- Anaïs Nin

Pain, pleasure, struggles, music.

When you get back to your life, give me a call.

-GSH

Personalities will clash if there is no compromise.

"Don't put the ones you love on pause for a second because in that second they will realize how little they mean to you."

people act according to the season they were born in.
-beautiful struggle, talib kweli

Some are strangers to love, it's nothing personal.

message to myself

9.7.12 Conversation with Mama

Reflective
Reflection
And here I am again on you
But conversations and thoughts are turning
And it's not "you" on my mind
How amazing adaptation is
Resilience
The ability to cope
The human mind is truly incredible

Compassion abounds
But leaves some untouched
The ones who need it most
And selfishness is my least favorite feeling
It feels like it eats at my heart
And if I truly:
Listened
Observed
Felt
And acted in tune with my conscience,
I wouldn't have cut you so deep,
Forgotten you so much,
Made you feel unappreciated,
Unloved,
Uncared for
When you are the one who brought me to life

I am sorry, Mother.
I will love you better.
I will love you.
Thank you for being unconditional.
Excuse my conditions.
I feel pain for my failures to care for you properly
To extend my hand
To take your hand that has grown cobwebs
They will be no more
I will clean the mistakes that I've made
And move forward to be the daughter that makes you proud
The daughter that you feel peace with
The daughter that you love and are loved by.

It ain't easy giving up your heart.

Sports- the transformation of grief and anger into something better.

Being shot down by love and affection can't be that bad.
And like a bullet in the body,
for some it is a similar foreign invader that cannot be processed or understood.

precious..

"As girls we dream of a perfect prince to rescue us from the hardships of life. I've been so blessed to have found my king."

love now

Always love your loved ones and show them how you feel before it is too late. You will never know when they will be gone.

Today is the day. Love them while they are still here.

If someone thinks you're disturbing them when you are caring for them, consider letting them go.

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What Scars Do You Let Define You?

What Scars Do You Let Define You?

Oftentimes, we don’t have control, but we can choose to react in a positive way to what life throws at us—to embrace the difficulties, to embrace the heartache, to embrace everything we face and learn and grow from it. I think that is when I began to appreciate what I have, whom I am becoming, and this beautiful world we live in. That is also when I realized that if there is something I don’t like about my life, I have the power to change it.

When I found that inner strength and began to come to these realizations and when I began to study myself and get to know myself, that’s when I stopped letting that one-inch scar define me, and that’s when I think it disappeared.

Loving Life No Matter What

Loving Life No Matter What

This was the beginning of what would become an earnest search for a place of peace, connectedness, and inner freedom that I could count on, even in the face of life’s greatest challenges. I now call this place “true refuge” because I’ve come to understand that it doesn’t depend on anything outside ourselves—a certain situation, person, cure, or even particular mood or emotion. The yearning for such refuge is not mine, personally; it’s universal. It’s what lies beneath all of our wants and fears. We long to know we can handle what’s coming. We want to trust ourselves, to trust and love this life.

In the Buddhist tradition, the Pali word “dukkha” is used to describe the emotional pain that runs through our lives. While it’s often translated as “suffering,” dukkha encompasses all our experiences of stress, dissatisfaction, anxiety, sorrow, frustration, and basic unease in living. But if we listen deeply, we will detect beneath the surface of all that troubles us an underlying sense that we are alone and unsafe, that something is wrong with our life.

The Buddha taught that this experience of insecurity, isolation, and basic “wrongness” is unavoidable. We humans, he said, are conditioned to feel separate and at odds with our changing and out-of-control life. And from this core feeling unfolds the whole array of our disruptive emotions—fear, anger, shame, grief, jealousy—all of our limiting stories, and the reactive behaviors that add to our pain.

Yet, the Buddha also offered a radical promise, one that Buddhism shares with many wisdom traditions: we can find true refuge within our own hearts and minds—right here, right now, in the midst of our moment-to-moment lives.

We find true refuge whenever we recognize the silent, awake space of awareness behind all of our busy doing and striving. We find refuge whenever our hearts open with tenderness and love. Presence, the immediacy and aliveness and warmth of our intrinsic awareness, creates a boundless sanctuary where there’s room for everything in our life.

That day in Cape Cod, I didn’t know if I could ever be happy living with a future of pain and physical limitation. While I was crying, Cheylah, one of our standard poodles, sat down beside me and began nudging me with concern. Her presence was comforting; it reconnected me to the here and now and to a deeply tender inner presence. After I stroked her for a while, we got up for a walk. She took the lead as we meandered along an easy path overlooking the bay.

In the aftermath of grieving, I was silent and open. My heart held everything—the soreness of my knees, the expanse of sparkling water, Cheylah, my unknown future, the sound of gulls. Nothing was missing, nothing was wrong. These moments of true refuge foreshadowed one of the great gifts of the Buddhist path—that we can be “happy for no reason.”

We can love life just as it is, recognizing that no matter how challenging the situation, there is always a way to take refuge in a healing and liberating presence.

We are all carrying difficulties on our hearts
Scars from our experiences
We all want to have peace
In order that we may love our lives
The alternative of happiness is superior to depression, anxiety, and hopelessness

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

Own Loving Your Life

Own Loving Your Life

1. Make a Joy List. I do this in many of my yoga classes and ask my students to post it somewhere where they can see it.
2. Create mantras for yourself. We do this in my yoga class, as well. Create a phrase or a word and repeat it as often as needed to replace another mantra that no longer serves you, such as “My life sucks” “I am fat” “I am broke,” etc.
3. Laugh when you fall. It is my rule in my class, but start to apply it to real life as often as you can. Develop a sense of humor. Especially about yourself.
4. Be kind.
5. Be grateful for what you have right now AND for what is on it’s way. Say “thank you” in advance.
6. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. No such thing. As my client’s son Will says, “Mom, why isn’t the word perfect extinct since it does not exist?”
7. Do yoga. On and/or off the mat.
8. Find things to be in awe of.
9. Sing out loud, even if badly. Feel free to come to one of my karaoke yoga classes (that was what I was on Good Morning America for).
10. Write poems, even if only in your head.
11. Dance.
12. If you don’t have anything nice to say, you know the deal.
13. Tell someone that you love them. Yes, right now.
14. Take more pictures.
15. Watch Modern Family.

YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness

YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness
By Silvia Mordini

When we assume the best, we create a safe environment for our own self-exploration and spiritual maturity. You can see it in your physical posture. If you stand with your arms relaxed at your sides, your heart is wide open, welcoming the best. With your arms tightly crossed, then your heart is closed in an expectation of being hurt or afraid. Of course, it is easy to stand at the "water cooler" of life making the most negative assumptions about our jobs, our boss, our friends, and our families. But, a higher path is to practice loving yourself, loving your day, loving your life by assuming the BEST. At the very least, consider offering some benefit of the doubt that the universe knows what it’s doing and has your best interests in mind.

There are two paths that we walk:
We can walk in the darkness assuming that everyone we meet is out to get us.
We can walk the brighter path looking for the good in others, assuming the best.
My friend Anne posted on facebook recently, "Those who look to be offended are never disappointed (no offense)." It's true. If you want to see the dark side of anyone, you will find negativity reflected back to you. “Seek and you shall find.” Practice being critical, and you'll find plenty of ways to prove yourself right. But, the bigger question is, "Would you rather be happy or be right"?

We always have a choice. What you did yesterday need not hold you back from choosing better today. Practice assuming the best with a positive expectation, and you'll get really good at looking for the good. Barbara Frederickson, professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, explains that positive emotions allow us to see more, whereas negative emotions literally narrow our thinking. At the end of the day, there are really only two buckets: fear or love. The bucket you have made the most deposits of energy into will grow; think of this as your Happiness Return on Investment (ROI).

Only you are responsible for your Happiness ROI. And no matter what challenges you face, you can always choose to assume the best. As Paulo Coelho reminds us in The Alchemist, “The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” Just try it for a week: assume the best, and feel the abundance of joy that comes as a result of seeing more. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!

“We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun -- and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist -- that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists--a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.”

- Paulo Coelho in By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept

25 Things I Am Still Learning
By Silvia Mordini

As an enthusiastic student of life I continue to challenge myself to embrace curiosity and delight in what an honor it is to keep learning. Here is my list of 25 Things I am Still Learning.

Love is the answer
Truth heals, but it might hurt at first
Collaboration through community expands compassion
Making time for myself is worth the investment
Saying yes stokes possibility
Assume the best
Take fun seriously
Comparison breeds envy and jealousy
Forgiveness is irrational; do it anyway
It’s important to make new friends
It’s important to keep old friends
I will never understand everything
Mistakes are necessary stepping stones
Over trying doesn’t help
Stop making things worse
Hugging makes human beings calmer
Trust myself
Keep learning how to receive
Staying creative and inspired takes effort
Worry wastes energy: Nothing is as bad as it seems
Take time to digest my food
Make time to digest my thoughts (meditate)
Others’ opinions don’t matter as much as my own
Travel: Investing in experience makes you rich
Keep my media diet lean: delete, simplify, unplug

The truth is, we should all aspire to seek out greater knowledge. Using these 25 small daily tune-ups, can help to recalibrate your mind and serve as a means to live in harmony with our families, friends and communities. We are still learning for the benefit of all mankind. This is something Michelangelo understood well. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!

One of my mission statements is to serve and give back as much as I humanly can.

Learning to love my life.

Time every day for meditation remembrance creativity.

10 Reasons Why We Need at Least 8 Hugs a Day
By Marcus Julian Felicetti

Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.

Research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in these ways:

1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication.

2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger.

3. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one's serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating happiness.

4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the Solar Plexus Chakra. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body's production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.

5. Hugging boosts self-esteem. From the time we're born our family's touch shows us that we're loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.

6. Hugging relaxes muscles. Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues.

7. Hugs balance out the nervous system. The galvanic skin response of someone receiving and giving a hug shows a change in skin conductance. The effect in moisture and electricity in the skin suggests a more balanced state in the nervous system - parasympathetic.

8. Hugs teach us how to give and receive. There is equal value in receiving and being receptive to warmth, as to giving and sharing. Hugs educate us how love flows both ways.

9. Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart and your feelings and your breath.

10. The energy exchange between the people hugging is an investment in the relationship. It encourages empathy and understanding. And, it's synergistic, which means the whole is more than the sum of its parts: 1 1 = 3 or more! This synergy is more likely to result in win-win outcomes.

There is a saying by Virginia Satir, a respected family therapist, “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” Eight or more might seem quite high, but while researching and writing this article I asked my child, “How many hugs a day do you like?” She said, “I'm not going to tell you how many I like, but it's way more than eight.” That really made me smile and touched my heart. And, I realized how organic and deep the need for hugs is.

As a loving father, I get plenty of hugs from my little princess and her Mamma. And as a yoga therapist, I often give and receive them from my students at the end of a session. I find that love, is a miracle drug.

amazing. I love the sun.

Today, the name for sunlight therapy is heliotherapy.

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10 Healing Benefits of the Sun
By Marcus Julian Felicetti

Here are 10 benefits of getting a moderate amount of sun exposure:

1. Sunlight and whole foods send breast cancer into remission. The American physician Dr. Zane Kime used sunbathing and nutrition to cure his patients. Even in terminal cases, Dr. Kime was able to completely reverse the metastasized cancer.

2. The sun's light kills bad bacteria. The German solders after WWI knew of the discoveries that had been made in 1903 by the Nobel Prize winner, Niels Finsen. They used sunlight to disinfect and heal wounds.

3. Sunlight has a beneficial effect on skin disorders, such as psoriasis, acne, eczema and fungal infections of the skin.

4. Sunlight lowers cholesterol. The sun converts high cholesterol in the blood into steroid hormones and the sex hormones we need for reproduction. In the absence of sunlight, the opposite happens; substances convert to cholesterol.

5. The sun's rays lower blood pressure. Even a single exposure significantly lowers blood pressure in individuals with high blood pressure. On the other hand, pharmaceutical drugs such as Statins have side effects, such as robbing the body of Coenzyme Q10. CoQ10 is essential for cellular and heart energy.

6. Sunlight penetrates deep into the skin to cleanse the blood and blood vessels. Medical literature published in Europe showed that people with atherosclerosis (hardened arteries) improved with sun exposure.

7. Sunlight increases oxygen content in human blood. And, it also enhances the body's capacity to deliver oxygen to the tissues; very similar to the effects of exercise. The sun has a great effect on stamina, fitness and muscular development.

8. Sunlight builds the immune system. The white blood cells, which increase with sun exposure, are called lymphocytes, and these play a major role in defending the body against infections.

9. Regular sunlight exposure increases the growth and height of children, especially babies. Many cultures throughout history have recognized this fact. Studies have shown the amount of sun exposure in the first few months has an effect on how tall the person grows.

10. Sunlight can cure depression. The noon sunshine can deliver 100,000 lux. When we sit in offices for the best part of the day, out of the sun, under neon and artificial lights (150-600 lux), we are depriving ourselves of the illumination of nature. Sunlight deprivation can cause a condition called seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a form of depression. It is more common in winter months, but also common in people who work long hours in office buildings.

Chemistry Doesn't Equal a Healthy Relationship

How “hot,” funny, charming, nice or sexy someone is doesn’t mean they have the capacity to provide you a safe space that promotes growth, where you can feel supported, heard, and beautiful / invincible.

If you want your relationship to move forward (be healthy), both people need to know how to work together, be in sync. And this has nothing to do with how attracted you are to that person. But it does have everything to do with how that attraction will fade. Rowing in sync requires tools. This includes the ability to practice active listening, transparency, metacognition, and vulnerability. They must know how to fight fair and try to understand before being understood. If you want to discover all the wonders of the sea, make sure he / she has tools.

"The greatest revolution of my life is the discovery that individuals can change the outer aspects of their lives by changing the inner attitudes of their minds."

-William James

Ways to Wake Up to a 'Good Morning'
By Dr. F. Emelia Sam

Incorporate a peaceful practice

Since you have some extra time, put it to good use. Find a practice of positivity that speaks to you. Examples include: meditation, deep breathing, writing in a gratitude journal, visualization, etc. This type of activity will help you center yourself before you interact with another.

Whether you sleep alone or with company, these are simple practices that can help improve your disposition. Remember, how you wake up sets the tone for the rest of the day. Take charge; make it so that when you say, “Good morning,” you really mean it.

The Secret to Finding Your True Love
By Lindsey Dayavati Best

We crave and search for this elusive ‘one’! The one we are told is out there waiting for us, hiding away. We learn about our missing half through our culture, media, books, songs and peers. That person who will complete us and set us free from any and all the beliefs we hold about ourselves, the beliefs that ‘the one’ will obviously disprove as they reveal our greatness to us through their unending love, the greatness that we couldn’t quite see by ourselves. The irony of all the above is that even though people can bring out the best in us and we have fun with them, all that searching for completion by someone else is in vain as You are ‘the one’ you’re actually looking for.

This may seem a weird concept as finding the elusive ‘one’ seems an exciting adventure to be on, kind of a quest to find out where they are hiding and how they will make us a better person. However, the moment we accept ourselves as we are, with no circumstance that has to change to improve us, we find the elusive one. In spiritual circles it’s been pointed to as unity, maybe even enlightenment, but the recognition that love is never on the outside of us, in just one person, but lives within us as an inner experience is what we are all ultimately searching for. Oneness. If you want a life of fulfilment and love and all that good stuff we crave, it comes down to be willing to dare to live by your own heart’s truth with honesty, integrity and authenticity. Being bravely honest about who we are and what we feel, even at times where it can seem a bit scary, can become the greatest act and experience of love.

Relationships are such a beautiful part of having a human experience and that looking for love outside of ourselves, the highs and lows, the drama and intrigue, there’s nothing wrong with any of that. However, pinning our entire experience of love to only one person may set us up for a future fall and puts a huge amount of pressure on any partner. What would we do if they left, taking our only chance at feeling connected to love with them? We’d probably write songs or poetry, drink or eat too much and then find the next one once we had recovered a bit or we could pine forever! Yet if we find love as an inner unshakeable experience and fully give ourselves to that, sharing love from that space, that means we get to stay eternally connected to it. Which would you rather experience, temporary or permanent love?

What if there is no right or wrong in relationships, just discovery and choice? Only You get to choose what you’ll tolerate, settle for and live with, ever. No victimhood required where love’s concerned. You only ever have choice, especially choice to be true to who you are in any given moment, choice of the standards you’ll live by. If you love someone, love them, it doesn’t mean you have to be with them, as you can’t lose love. No one makes a wrong choice, they just make a choice and hope for the best. It’s only with hindsight that we can make anything right or wrong, good or bad. Everyone is ultimately looking for the ‘one’ - that experience of love that can make them feel whole. And if they look outside of themselves for that, it can be a long search. So let’s all give ourselves a break.

A decision to wait until everything seems perfect on the outside or to stay with someone so you don’t feel lonely or poor is not living from your heart's truth - that’s the mind settling for what it can get. The mind will forever keep you one step removed from the one as Love can only ever be experienced here, right now, and it is You as you are.

Big L kind of Love makes all things possible. Cease searching anywhere but inside yourself for that sense of completeness. You are deserving of it all. Absolutely share love with a special someone - date, marry, live with them, travel - it’s fun. Commit and make beautiful lives and babies together, but do it whilst living with authenticity and an open heart, discovering and knowing your experience of love begins with you. You deserve to live and love fully, wholeheartedly and that is without exception.

You’ve never done anything that would keep you from experiencing love as it starts with you and you’re already perfectly, completely, lovably you.

You are the One you’ve been looking for.

"There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts."

--- Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray, Love

romantic quotes

“What a grand thing, to be loved! What a grander thing still, to love!”

“The first symptom of love in a young man is shyness; the first symptom in a woman, it's boldness.”

“People do not lack strength; they lack will.”

“Love is a portion of the soul itself, and it is of the same nature as the celestial breathing of the atmosphere of paradise."

“To love another person is to see the face of God”

-Victor Hugo (French romantic Poet, Novelist and Dramatist, 1802-1885)

Hip-hop, you the stable love of my life.

I'll share when I got something I want to share with the people.

"Assumptions are one of the easiest things to make, and one of the most dangerous to keep."

-My wise sister

People walk and talk in their sleep, Oh excuse my awareness.

-Real People, Common

If you don't like the way things are or the way people are doing things,

take down a note of how you'll work to change it.

Anger

Anger rallies people. It creates energy and motivation to rebel against dysfunctional political or social systems. It also motivates groups to go on strike say, for higher, well-deserved wages or to defend human rights. On a personal level, anger can be good if it's expressed in a focused, healthy way rather than using it to punish or harm others.

Anger is one of the hardest impulses to control because of its evolutionary value in defending against danger.

What factors make us susceptible to anger? One is an accumulation of built-up stresses. That's why your temper can flare more easily after a frustrating day. The second is letting anger and resentments smolder. When anger becomes chronic, cortisol, the stress hormone, contributes to its slow burn. Remaining in this condition makes you edgy, quick to snap. Research has proven that anger feeds on itself. The effect is cumulative: each angry episode builds on the hormonal momentum of the time before. For example, even the most devoted, loving mothers may be horrified to find themselves screaming at their kids if they haven't learned to constructively diffuse a backlog of irritations. Therefore, the powerful lesson our biology teaches us is the necessity of breaking the hostility cycle early on, and that brooding on the past is hazardous to your well-being.

For optimal health, you must address your anger. But the point isn't to keep blowing up when you're upset rather--it's to develop strategies to express anger that are body-friendly. Otherwise, you'll be set up for illnesses such as migraines, irritable bowel syndrome, or chronic pain, which can be exacerbated by tension. Or you'll keep jacking up your blood pressure and constricting your blood vessels, which compromises flow to the heart. A Johns Hopkins study reports that young men who habitually react to stress with anger are more likely than their calmer counterparts to have an early heart attack, even without a family history of heart disease. Further, other studies have shown that hostile couples who hurl insults and roll their eyes when arguing physically heal more slowly than less antagonistic partners who have a "we're in this together" attitude.

The goal with anger is to own the moment so this emotion doesn't own you. Then you can mindfully respond rather than simply react. You'll have the lucidity to be solution oriented and therefore empower how you relate to others.


http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/emotional-freedom/201102/four-strategies-cope-anger-in-healthy-way

I'm done. Packing up and moving forward. Good bye.

Tendency to smother.

The importance of being the one that you keep close.

-the XX

EXPRESS YOURSELF

STAY STRONG THROUGH THE STRUGGLE

COPE HEALTHFULLY

OVERCOME



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Daughters

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