One way to build up your savoring skill and boost your mood is to engage in techniques that distract you from your worries and help you avoid overthinking.
40% of your happiness is within your control!
Showing posts with label self-growth. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-growth. Show all posts
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Thursday, May 9, 2013
The Matrix of the Mind
No matter what you’re struggling with – mastering your mind is the most important thing because without that you’ll get blown by the wind.
The mind affects everything.
Let me explain how you can control your life by understanding this most important concept in life: The Matrix.
If you don’t control your mind, you’ll regress after the first sign of either accomplishment or conflict.
I want to start you off with some mind tools needed so you control what’s happening on the inside to get what you want on the outside. Unfortunately, for most of us, neither our parents nor the public school education system has taught us about how our minds work.
This first mind tool is “The Matrix of the Mind” and how it affects you daily without you even realizing it.
How to control your life by controlling The Matrix
If you understand the Matrix that’s trying to control your life right now you can break out of it and manipulate the game of life to your advantage. Knowing this mind tool can make or break you.
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Does this mean we’re screwed? Absolutely not!
The bad news is that we can’t fully escape from these things completely. They’re beyond us.
The good news is that you can step back and pay attention to what’s happening in each matrix and manipulate it through your awareness.
In other words you can create new rules, objectives, and beliefs. You can jump in and out of matrices as you see fit and you can even create your own matrix with your own rules.
Here’s your homework
Answer these 3 questions to yourself first.
~What are your beliefs?
~What are your values?
~What are your assumptions about life?
Based on those answers, In the comments below describe the matrix you’re living in? Describe the rules and beliefs of the Matrix you’re living in.
Are these answers really serving your long term vision in life? And can you see how it’s controlling you?
The mind affects everything.
Let me explain how you can control your life by understanding this most important concept in life: The Matrix.
If you don’t control your mind, you’ll regress after the first sign of either accomplishment or conflict.
I want to start you off with some mind tools needed so you control what’s happening on the inside to get what you want on the outside. Unfortunately, for most of us, neither our parents nor the public school education system has taught us about how our minds work.
This first mind tool is “The Matrix of the Mind” and how it affects you daily without you even realizing it.
How to control your life by controlling The Matrix
If you understand the Matrix that’s trying to control your life right now you can break out of it and manipulate the game of life to your advantage. Knowing this mind tool can make or break you.
Download audio
Does this mean we’re screwed? Absolutely not!
The bad news is that we can’t fully escape from these things completely. They’re beyond us.
The good news is that you can step back and pay attention to what’s happening in each matrix and manipulate it through your awareness.
In other words you can create new rules, objectives, and beliefs. You can jump in and out of matrices as you see fit and you can even create your own matrix with your own rules.
Here’s your homework
Answer these 3 questions to yourself first.
~What are your beliefs?
~What are your values?
~What are your assumptions about life?
Based on those answers, In the comments below describe the matrix you’re living in? Describe the rules and beliefs of the Matrix you’re living in.
Are these answers really serving your long term vision in life? And can you see how it’s controlling you?
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
To do:
1) Know when to have heart open
2) Know when to have walls up in the heart
3) Know when not to internalize
4) Know when to internalize
2) Know when to have walls up in the heart
3) Know when not to internalize
4) Know when to internalize
Sunday, April 21, 2013
Combating Judgment
YOUR JOURNEY IS YOUR OWN JOURNEY.
http://www.thejoyjunkie.com/are-you-a-judgey-judgerson-5-ways-to-combat-a-judgmental-instinct/
Friday, March 15, 2013
getting more in tune . . .
Getting more in tune with myself
Listening to my soul
Hearing what I should practice
Hearing what will make my life better
Practicing being true to myself
Pursuing my true wants
Preserving my health
Diet.Spirituality.Exercise.Emotions.MentalHealth.Intellect.Love.Society.Friends.Family.Nature.Responsibilities.Self-growth.Culture.MyFuture.
All elements of my well-being I am prioritizing and working on and fighting for when I need to.
In lots of love, health, and joy of being deeply content in the now,
Jessica B
Listening to my soul
Hearing what I should practice
Hearing what will make my life better
Practicing being true to myself
Pursuing my true wants
Preserving my health
Diet.Spirituality.Exercise.Emotions.MentalHealth.Intellect.Love.Society.Friends.Family.Nature.Responsibilities.Self-growth.Culture.MyFuture.
All elements of my well-being I am prioritizing and working on and fighting for when I need to.
In lots of love, health, and joy of being deeply content in the now,
Jessica B
Sunday, March 10, 2013
"When you eat because you are actually hungry, you're open to options. When you are eating to fill a void that isn't related to an empty stomach, you crave a specific food."
Emotional eating can leave behind feelings of guilt; eating when you are physically hungry does not.
"Comfort foods are foods a person eats to obtain or maintain a feeling," says Brian Wansink, PhD, director of the Food and Brand Lab at the University of Illinois. "Comfort foods are often wrongly associated with negative moods, and indeed, people often consume them when they're down or depressed, but interestingly enough, comfort foods are also consumed to maintain good moods." (Oh marbles can I relate!)
"If you eat when you are not hungry, chances are your body does not need the calories," says Jakubczak. "If this happens too often, the extra calories get stored as fat, and too much fat storage can cause one to be overweight, which may present some health risks."
According to an interview with Jakubczak on the University of Maryland web site, 75% of overeating is caused by emotions, so dealing with emotions appropriately is important.
"The first thing one needs to do to overcome emotional eating is to recognize it," says Jakubczak. "Keeping a food record and ranking your hunger from 1-10 each time you put something in your mouth will bring to light 'if' and 'when' you are eating for reasons other than hunger." (I want to eat only for reasons of hunger).
Next, you need to learn techniques that help manage emotions besides eating, explains Jakubczak.
"Oftentimes when a child is sad, we cheer them up with a sweet treat," says Jakubczak. "This behavior gets reinforced year after year until we are practicing the same behavior as adults. We never learned how to deal with the sad feeling because we always pushed it away with a sweet treat. Learning how to deal with feelings without food is a new skill many of us need to learn."
Managing Emotional Eating
Here are a few tips to help you deal with emotional eating:
Recognize emotional eating and learn what triggers this behavior in you.
Make a list of things to do when you get the urge to eat and you're not hungry, and carry it with you, according to the Tufts Nutrition web site. When you feel overwhelmed, you can put off that desire by doing another enjoyable activity.
Try taking a walk, calling a friend, playing cards, cleaning your room, doing laundry, or something productive to take your mind off the craving -- even taking a nap, according to the Tufts Nutrition web site.
When you do get the urge to eat when you're not hungry, find a comfort food that's healthy instead of junk food. "Comfort foods don't need to be unhealthy," says Wansink.
For some, leaving comfort foods behind when they're dieting can be emotionally difficult. Wansink tells WebMD, "The key is moderation, not elimination." He suggests dividing comfort foods into smaller portions. For instance, if you have a large bag of chips, divide it into smaller containers or baggies and the temptation to eat more than one serving can be avoided.
When it comes to comfort foods that aren't always healthy, like fattening desserts, Wansink also offers this piece of information: "Your memory of a food peaks after about four bites, so if you only have those bites, a week later you'll recall it as just a good experience than if you polished off the whole thing." So have a few bites of cheesecake, then call it quits, and you'll get equal the pleasure with lower cost.
Lastly, remember that emotional eating is something that most people do when they're bored, happy, or sad. It might be a bag of chips or a steak, but whatever the food choice, learning how to CONTROL it and using MODERATION are key.
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/emotional-eating-feeding-your-feelings
Emotional eating can leave behind feelings of guilt; eating when you are physically hungry does not.
"Comfort foods are foods a person eats to obtain or maintain a feeling," says Brian Wansink, PhD, director of the Food and Brand Lab at the University of Illinois. "Comfort foods are often wrongly associated with negative moods, and indeed, people often consume them when they're down or depressed, but interestingly enough, comfort foods are also consumed to maintain good moods." (Oh marbles can I relate!)
"If you eat when you are not hungry, chances are your body does not need the calories," says Jakubczak. "If this happens too often, the extra calories get stored as fat, and too much fat storage can cause one to be overweight, which may present some health risks."
According to an interview with Jakubczak on the University of Maryland web site, 75% of overeating is caused by emotions, so dealing with emotions appropriately is important.
"The first thing one needs to do to overcome emotional eating is to recognize it," says Jakubczak. "Keeping a food record and ranking your hunger from 1-10 each time you put something in your mouth will bring to light 'if' and 'when' you are eating for reasons other than hunger." (I want to eat only for reasons of hunger).
Next, you need to learn techniques that help manage emotions besides eating, explains Jakubczak.
"Oftentimes when a child is sad, we cheer them up with a sweet treat," says Jakubczak. "This behavior gets reinforced year after year until we are practicing the same behavior as adults. We never learned how to deal with the sad feeling because we always pushed it away with a sweet treat. Learning how to deal with feelings without food is a new skill many of us need to learn."
Managing Emotional Eating
Here are a few tips to help you deal with emotional eating:
Recognize emotional eating and learn what triggers this behavior in you.
Make a list of things to do when you get the urge to eat and you're not hungry, and carry it with you, according to the Tufts Nutrition web site. When you feel overwhelmed, you can put off that desire by doing another enjoyable activity.
Try taking a walk, calling a friend, playing cards, cleaning your room, doing laundry, or something productive to take your mind off the craving -- even taking a nap, according to the Tufts Nutrition web site.
When you do get the urge to eat when you're not hungry, find a comfort food that's healthy instead of junk food. "Comfort foods don't need to be unhealthy," says Wansink.
For some, leaving comfort foods behind when they're dieting can be emotionally difficult. Wansink tells WebMD, "The key is moderation, not elimination." He suggests dividing comfort foods into smaller portions. For instance, if you have a large bag of chips, divide it into smaller containers or baggies and the temptation to eat more than one serving can be avoided.
When it comes to comfort foods that aren't always healthy, like fattening desserts, Wansink also offers this piece of information: "Your memory of a food peaks after about four bites, so if you only have those bites, a week later you'll recall it as just a good experience than if you polished off the whole thing." So have a few bites of cheesecake, then call it quits, and you'll get equal the pleasure with lower cost.
Lastly, remember that emotional eating is something that most people do when they're bored, happy, or sad. It might be a bag of chips or a steak, but whatever the food choice, learning how to CONTROL it and using MODERATION are key.
http://www.webmd.com/diet/features/emotional-eating-feeding-your-feelings
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Sunday, January 20, 2013
How to Hack Your Brain
With a few simple tricks, you can exploit your brain's innate functionality to change just about anything about yourself.
most of what you consider part of your identity is a product of influence.
We have a tendency to think that change is difficult, but it's really just a matter of changing your influence.
While everything stored in your recent memory may not be immediately accessible, all you really need to bring something up is a trigger word.
This is a list of words synonymous with or related to ambition. It's designed to be read aloud to put you in a more ambitious mindset, focusing your thoughts and priming your brain to react ambitiously when these words, or portions of these words, come up later in your day.
-drive
-do
-go
-make
-objective
-important
-create
-commitment
-purpose
-enthusiasm
-eager
-motivation
For more reading on priming, and a look at some really interesting studies, don't forget to check out the references for this article.
Using Your Emotions
If you've ever found yourself making out-of-character decisions based on your emotional state—such as binging on ice cream after a breakup—you know how easily your feelings can overtake your actions. Rather than letting your emotions lead you towards poor judgment and irrational behavior, however, you can learn to compensate for different emotional states and to fabricate emotions to alter your mood. In order to do that you need to, simply put, get in touch with your feelings. The idea isn't so much to cry into a pillow about your wasted childhood, but understand what you're feeling when you're feeling it, what the root cause is, and what you can do about it. We're going to take a look at how you can dissect your emotional state to use it to your advantage, and also look at how you can fabricate emotion to change how you're feeling.
Make Yourself Uncomfortable
Your emotions aren't in full force if you're not really doing anything, so you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations in order to bring them out. This doesn't mean you should make yourself feel horrible, but that you should go out and do things that you might resist because you're worried about the downsides. Meeting new people is something that makes most people uncomfortable, and it's a great place to start, especially if it's a first date. Try new things that scare you. If you notice you're glued to the couch and don't want to get up, do the opposite. Spend time with people you don't like. Go to a movie you're sure you'll hate. Your experiences won't always be pleasant, but they should incite emotion that you can later analyze and better understand.
Keep Track of How You Feel
Like an abbreviated diary, every time you have an emotional reaction to something, write it down. You don't need much detail, but just a sentence or two noting the emotion you're experiencing and the (possible) cause. For example, I get extremely irritable when I'm hungry. I will lose my temper far more easily when I'm hungry, so whenever I notice myself thinking irrational (and sometimes hateful) things, I always remind myself that I'm just hungry, I'll eat in a minute, and the "asshole" who accidentally missed the garbage can and didn't notice is mostly a result of my frustrated stomach. Until I started to pay attention, I never really noticed that I was a jerk whenever I was hungry. Instead, I just thought I was a jerk. This is a simple example, but the point is this: pay attention to how you feel and the other issues currently present, and you'll find it much easier to manage your negative emotions.
These expressions do surface from genuine emotion, so repeating them can actually make you feel happier/sadder/angrier/etc. through repetition. If you need to change your mood and your mindset, the ability to fake it ‘til you make it is very, very useful.
Always be healthy first before playing mind tricks- taking care of your body and your mind.
http://lifehacker.com/5747213/how-to-hack-your-brain#references
most of what you consider part of your identity is a product of influence.
We have a tendency to think that change is difficult, but it's really just a matter of changing your influence.
While everything stored in your recent memory may not be immediately accessible, all you really need to bring something up is a trigger word.
This is a list of words synonymous with or related to ambition. It's designed to be read aloud to put you in a more ambitious mindset, focusing your thoughts and priming your brain to react ambitiously when these words, or portions of these words, come up later in your day.
-drive
-do
-go
-make
-objective
-important
-create
-commitment
-purpose
-enthusiasm
-eager
-motivation
For more reading on priming, and a look at some really interesting studies, don't forget to check out the references for this article.
Using Your Emotions
If you've ever found yourself making out-of-character decisions based on your emotional state—such as binging on ice cream after a breakup—you know how easily your feelings can overtake your actions. Rather than letting your emotions lead you towards poor judgment and irrational behavior, however, you can learn to compensate for different emotional states and to fabricate emotions to alter your mood. In order to do that you need to, simply put, get in touch with your feelings. The idea isn't so much to cry into a pillow about your wasted childhood, but understand what you're feeling when you're feeling it, what the root cause is, and what you can do about it. We're going to take a look at how you can dissect your emotional state to use it to your advantage, and also look at how you can fabricate emotion to change how you're feeling.
Make Yourself Uncomfortable
Your emotions aren't in full force if you're not really doing anything, so you need to put yourself in uncomfortable situations in order to bring them out. This doesn't mean you should make yourself feel horrible, but that you should go out and do things that you might resist because you're worried about the downsides. Meeting new people is something that makes most people uncomfortable, and it's a great place to start, especially if it's a first date. Try new things that scare you. If you notice you're glued to the couch and don't want to get up, do the opposite. Spend time with people you don't like. Go to a movie you're sure you'll hate. Your experiences won't always be pleasant, but they should incite emotion that you can later analyze and better understand.
Keep Track of How You Feel
Like an abbreviated diary, every time you have an emotional reaction to something, write it down. You don't need much detail, but just a sentence or two noting the emotion you're experiencing and the (possible) cause. For example, I get extremely irritable when I'm hungry. I will lose my temper far more easily when I'm hungry, so whenever I notice myself thinking irrational (and sometimes hateful) things, I always remind myself that I'm just hungry, I'll eat in a minute, and the "asshole" who accidentally missed the garbage can and didn't notice is mostly a result of my frustrated stomach. Until I started to pay attention, I never really noticed that I was a jerk whenever I was hungry. Instead, I just thought I was a jerk. This is a simple example, but the point is this: pay attention to how you feel and the other issues currently present, and you'll find it much easier to manage your negative emotions.
These expressions do surface from genuine emotion, so repeating them can actually make you feel happier/sadder/angrier/etc. through repetition. If you need to change your mood and your mindset, the ability to fake it ‘til you make it is very, very useful.
Always be healthy first before playing mind tricks- taking care of your body and your mind.
http://lifehacker.com/5747213/how-to-hack-your-brain#references
Friday, November 23, 2012
Friday, September 21, 2012
It is 11:53 am on a Friday, September 21, 2012.
This morning has been so incredible so far because I have made it incredible.
I am in a maturing phase where I am taking greater responsibility for my own life.
I am accountable to myself for my joy.
I am growing a lot as a person.
And today as my self-esteem is growing, I realize that I am a goddess.
All womyn are goddesses.
They must recognize that internally.
The world recognizes it for them.
And they share their sacred energy with the chosen.
This morning has been so incredible so far because I have made it incredible.
I am in a maturing phase where I am taking greater responsibility for my own life.
I am accountable to myself for my joy.
I am growing a lot as a person.
And today as my self-esteem is growing, I realize that I am a goddess.
All womyn are goddesses.
They must recognize that internally.
The world recognizes it for them.
And they share their sacred energy with the chosen.
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
What Scars Do You Let Define You?
What Scars Do You Let Define You?
Oftentimes, we don’t have control, but we can choose to react in a positive way to what life throws at us—to embrace the difficulties, to embrace the heartache, to embrace everything we face and learn and grow from it. I think that is when I began to appreciate what I have, whom I am becoming, and this beautiful world we live in. That is also when I realized that if there is something I don’t like about my life, I have the power to change it.
When I found that inner strength and began to come to these realizations and when I began to study myself and get to know myself, that’s when I stopped letting that one-inch scar define me, and that’s when I think it disappeared.
Oftentimes, we don’t have control, but we can choose to react in a positive way to what life throws at us—to embrace the difficulties, to embrace the heartache, to embrace everything we face and learn and grow from it. I think that is when I began to appreciate what I have, whom I am becoming, and this beautiful world we live in. That is also when I realized that if there is something I don’t like about my life, I have the power to change it.
When I found that inner strength and began to come to these realizations and when I began to study myself and get to know myself, that’s when I stopped letting that one-inch scar define me, and that’s when I think it disappeared.
Own Loving Your Life
Own Loving Your Life
1. Make a Joy List. I do this in many of my yoga classes and ask my students to post it somewhere where they can see it.
2. Create mantras for yourself. We do this in my yoga class, as well. Create a phrase or a word and repeat it as often as needed to replace another mantra that no longer serves you, such as “My life sucks” “I am fat” “I am broke,” etc.
3. Laugh when you fall. It is my rule in my class, but start to apply it to real life as often as you can. Develop a sense of humor. Especially about yourself.
4. Be kind.
5. Be grateful for what you have right now AND for what is on it’s way. Say “thank you” in advance.
6. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. No such thing. As my client’s son Will says, “Mom, why isn’t the word perfect extinct since it does not exist?”
7. Do yoga. On and/or off the mat.
8. Find things to be in awe of.
9. Sing out loud, even if badly. Feel free to come to one of my karaoke yoga classes (that was what I was on Good Morning America for).
10. Write poems, even if only in your head.
11. Dance.
12. If you don’t have anything nice to say, you know the deal.
13. Tell someone that you love them. Yes, right now.
14. Take more pictures.
15. Watch Modern Family.
1. Make a Joy List. I do this in many of my yoga classes and ask my students to post it somewhere where they can see it.
2. Create mantras for yourself. We do this in my yoga class, as well. Create a phrase or a word and repeat it as often as needed to replace another mantra that no longer serves you, such as “My life sucks” “I am fat” “I am broke,” etc.
3. Laugh when you fall. It is my rule in my class, but start to apply it to real life as often as you can. Develop a sense of humor. Especially about yourself.
4. Be kind.
5. Be grateful for what you have right now AND for what is on it’s way. Say “thank you” in advance.
6. Forgive yourself for not being perfect. No such thing. As my client’s son Will says, “Mom, why isn’t the word perfect extinct since it does not exist?”
7. Do yoga. On and/or off the mat.
8. Find things to be in awe of.
9. Sing out loud, even if badly. Feel free to come to one of my karaoke yoga classes (that was what I was on Good Morning America for).
10. Write poems, even if only in your head.
11. Dance.
12. If you don’t have anything nice to say, you know the deal.
13. Tell someone that you love them. Yes, right now.
14. Take more pictures.
15. Watch Modern Family.
YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness
YOU Are Responsible for Your Happiness
By Silvia Mordini
When we assume the best, we create a safe environment for our own self-exploration and spiritual maturity. You can see it in your physical posture. If you stand with your arms relaxed at your sides, your heart is wide open, welcoming the best. With your arms tightly crossed, then your heart is closed in an expectation of being hurt or afraid. Of course, it is easy to stand at the "water cooler" of life making the most negative assumptions about our jobs, our boss, our friends, and our families. But, a higher path is to practice loving yourself, loving your day, loving your life by assuming the BEST. At the very least, consider offering some benefit of the doubt that the universe knows what it’s doing and has your best interests in mind.
There are two paths that we walk:
We can walk in the darkness assuming that everyone we meet is out to get us.
We can walk the brighter path looking for the good in others, assuming the best.
My friend Anne posted on facebook recently, "Those who look to be offended are never disappointed (no offense)." It's true. If you want to see the dark side of anyone, you will find negativity reflected back to you. “Seek and you shall find.” Practice being critical, and you'll find plenty of ways to prove yourself right. But, the bigger question is, "Would you rather be happy or be right"?
We always have a choice. What you did yesterday need not hold you back from choosing better today. Practice assuming the best with a positive expectation, and you'll get really good at looking for the good. Barbara Frederickson, professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, explains that positive emotions allow us to see more, whereas negative emotions literally narrow our thinking. At the end of the day, there are really only two buckets: fear or love. The bucket you have made the most deposits of energy into will grow; think of this as your Happiness Return on Investment (ROI).
Only you are responsible for your Happiness ROI. And no matter what challenges you face, you can always choose to assume the best. As Paulo Coelho reminds us in The Alchemist, “The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” Just try it for a week: assume the best, and feel the abundance of joy that comes as a result of seeing more. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!
“We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun -- and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist -- that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists--a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.”
- Paulo Coelho in By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
By Silvia Mordini
When we assume the best, we create a safe environment for our own self-exploration and spiritual maturity. You can see it in your physical posture. If you stand with your arms relaxed at your sides, your heart is wide open, welcoming the best. With your arms tightly crossed, then your heart is closed in an expectation of being hurt or afraid. Of course, it is easy to stand at the "water cooler" of life making the most negative assumptions about our jobs, our boss, our friends, and our families. But, a higher path is to practice loving yourself, loving your day, loving your life by assuming the BEST. At the very least, consider offering some benefit of the doubt that the universe knows what it’s doing and has your best interests in mind.
There are two paths that we walk:
We can walk in the darkness assuming that everyone we meet is out to get us.
We can walk the brighter path looking for the good in others, assuming the best.
My friend Anne posted on facebook recently, "Those who look to be offended are never disappointed (no offense)." It's true. If you want to see the dark side of anyone, you will find negativity reflected back to you. “Seek and you shall find.” Practice being critical, and you'll find plenty of ways to prove yourself right. But, the bigger question is, "Would you rather be happy or be right"?
We always have a choice. What you did yesterday need not hold you back from choosing better today. Practice assuming the best with a positive expectation, and you'll get really good at looking for the good. Barbara Frederickson, professor of psychology at the University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill, explains that positive emotions allow us to see more, whereas negative emotions literally narrow our thinking. At the end of the day, there are really only two buckets: fear or love. The bucket you have made the most deposits of energy into will grow; think of this as your Happiness Return on Investment (ROI).
Only you are responsible for your Happiness ROI. And no matter what challenges you face, you can always choose to assume the best. As Paulo Coelho reminds us in The Alchemist, “The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” Just try it for a week: assume the best, and feel the abundance of joy that comes as a result of seeing more. Love yourself, love your day, love your life!
“We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen. Every day, God gives us the sun -- and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven't perceived that moment, that it doesn't exist -- that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same as tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant when we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists--a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.”
- Paulo Coelho in By The River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Struggling to maintain perspective.
Struggling to be mentally strong.
Sometimes I feel like a weakling when it comes to my head.
Sometimes I don't know how to "chill" or "relax" or even "live."
My mind is my weakness
Like for everyone,
The most difficult thing to overcome
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”
Teach me how to think.
Struggling to be mentally strong.
Sometimes I feel like a weakling when it comes to my head.
Sometimes I don't know how to "chill" or "relax" or even "live."
My mind is my weakness
Like for everyone,
The most difficult thing to overcome
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”
Teach me how to think.
Thursday, August 2, 2012
A good person and a good friend
Thank you for reminding me the value of having goals, of having dreams to chase, of having reasons to be driven
Thank you for inspiring me to be a better person, to practice compassion, to live by love
I have strayed, I have been selfish, I have been inconsiderate
My heart has become hardened, I have put my guard up, I have been insensitive
But as long as there is life there is hope, there is possibility for change, there are opportunities for new beginnings
Thank you for reminding me of the value of progress and developing compassion
Thank you for reminding me what life is truly about
Thank you for being a great friend and human being
Thank you for teaching me how to love more and better
Let us love.
Thank you for inspiring me to be a better person, to practice compassion, to live by love
I have strayed, I have been selfish, I have been inconsiderate
My heart has become hardened, I have put my guard up, I have been insensitive
But as long as there is life there is hope, there is possibility for change, there are opportunities for new beginnings
Thank you for reminding me of the value of progress and developing compassion
Thank you for reminding me what life is truly about
Thank you for being a great friend and human being
Thank you for teaching me how to love more and better
Let us love.
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
Monday, July 9, 2012
Life Advice from Steph
priorities will show in actions
if actions are not right
priorities arent
priorities in the heart
if heart aint right
if actions are not right
priorities arent
priorities in the heart
if heart aint right
Monday, June 11, 2012
Relationships
I'm a goddess, and I didn't even know it
But men noticed
Even when I was trying to mess around with no strings attached
I'd always get a call back
"Hey, can we meet up again?"
And I didn't realize my power then
But I know it now
I didn't find anyone worth it
But I gave it up to men who didn't deserve it
They were my mistakes
In exchange for temporary fun I caused heartache and took home baggage
I tainted relationships for you touchin my hips
It was a journey through a state of mind
And I realized that life is not right
For me
But I am not one to judge thee
I'm just too deep to let one go deep and quit it
But at the same time I don't want someone to consistently hit it
I am more grown
And happy alone
And one day,
I'll find someone who is worth it
And let them explore
My mind, soul, and more.
-JAYBE
But men noticed
Even when I was trying to mess around with no strings attached
I'd always get a call back
"Hey, can we meet up again?"
And I didn't realize my power then
But I know it now
I didn't find anyone worth it
But I gave it up to men who didn't deserve it
They were my mistakes
In exchange for temporary fun I caused heartache and took home baggage
I tainted relationships for you touchin my hips
It was a journey through a state of mind
And I realized that life is not right
For me
But I am not one to judge thee
I'm just too deep to let one go deep and quit it
But at the same time I don't want someone to consistently hit it
I am more grown
And happy alone
And one day,
I'll find someone who is worth it
And let them explore
My mind, soul, and more.
-JAYBE
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