So grateful for you D.A. Always contacting me when I need it.
Youll be a really good mom and wife to someone.
Love you bud. Blessed by you.
"You're going to find a time when you think you cant pull through but you will be able too and you wont need anything outside of yourself to do it."
And you wont need to give up on love either
Ever
You might want to at times cuz its "easier" but you wont
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label friendship. Show all posts
Saturday, December 28, 2013
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Soul tribe
Get real.
"As we grow up, we realize it is less important to have lots of friends, and more important to have real ones."
~Amanda McRae
So, no shit, right? I think that many of us "get" this cognitively, but just take a sec to survey your friendship landscape How REAL is the tribe around you? Do your best buds call your ass out, defend your best life, and give to you the same way you give to them? It's more than just years of history or having a good time together... it's about having peeps in your corner. No matter what. That get you. That support you. And your biggest life. So... if you are thinking of someone right now who IS that constant positive force in your life, take the time to TELL them today. And if you don't, start thinking about the soul sisters and brothers you want to attract into your orbit. Be conscious and you will create whatever support you need. Go get 'em.
"As we grow up, we realize it is less important to have lots of friends, and more important to have real ones."
~Amanda McRae
So, no shit, right? I think that many of us "get" this cognitively, but just take a sec to survey your friendship landscape How REAL is the tribe around you? Do your best buds call your ass out, defend your best life, and give to you the same way you give to them? It's more than just years of history or having a good time together... it's about having peeps in your corner. No matter what. That get you. That support you. And your biggest life. So... if you are thinking of someone right now who IS that constant positive force in your life, take the time to TELL them today. And if you don't, start thinking about the soul sisters and brothers you want to attract into your orbit. Be conscious and you will create whatever support you need. Go get 'em.
Friday, July 19, 2013
5 Ways To Embrace Ending Friendships and Relationships
“Celebrate endings, for they precede new beginnings.” ~Jonathan Lockwood Huie
I believe people are brought together for each person’s maximum spiritual growth. When the growth is done, it’s time to move on.
That spiritual growth could take two minutes, two weeks, two months, two years, or a lifetime. Either way, when the time comes, the most powerful thing we can do is allow ourselves to move on and trust that everything is happening exactly as it should.
Sometimes outside circumstances seemingly force our relationships to shift and move apart; other times it’s a decision you consciously make to walk away. However it happens, below are some ways you can move through changing relationships in the most positive and powerful way possible:
1. Don’t be afraid.
As you learn and grow, so do your friendships and relationships. I really noticed this when I started committing to a spiritual practice everyday. My circle of friends completely shifted. This is nothing to fear.
It’s not a “good” or “bad’ thing, but it’s important to understand that throughout our lives, people are going to fall away. And who knows, they might be back, but all you do know now is that you’ve learned all that you can from each other at this time.
When relationships and/or friendships end or shift, there is nothing to fear. Whether or not you realize it, everything always works out the way it’s meant to.
2. Take responsibility.
If the break-up was messy, or the friendship ended in a not so positive way, take responsibility for it. When you get to the point where you no longer blame someone else for how you feel, miraculous shifts occur.
I often turn to my inner guide, the voice for love within me, and ask, “What is the spiritual lesson here?” Your power is always hidden behind the people and circumstance that disturb you the most.
As some of my recent friendships evolved and fell away, I’ve discovered areas within myself that needed to be healed. The purpose of the relationship or the friendship was to show me those areas. Relationships can be amazing tools that catapult us to another level of peace and love.
3. Trust that you always have everyone you need.
This tiny idea can bring massive amounts of peace to your day. What if you woke up every morning knowing that every person you needed that day would be brought to you?
I try and start my day with this idea because I immediately stop trying to control my reality, and instead, trust in my inner guidance a whole lot more.
There is no one missing from this moment whom you need right now. If you’re sitting in a chair with no other bodies around, that’s because in this moment, your soul does not need anyone else to learn from.
4. Get ready for new friendships and relationships.
When you create the space for friendships and relationships that are not working to fall away, get ready, because new people who are more in-line with what your soul most needs to learn are on their way! This only becomes a fearful process when you forget that you’re always guided and that everything happens for you, not to you.
5. Release your guilt.
As I got more and more committed to praying, connecting to my true self, and meditating, I felt deep in my heart it was time for me to make some shifts in my outer world. That decision involved moving across the entire country, far away from family and all my friends.
At first, a few of my close friends couldn’t understand why I was leaving, and for a brief moment I felt guilty about it. But I had to follow my path and trust that new people and experiences were on their way.
Other people may not understand why you’re making the decision to move on, but that doesn’t matter. You can’t control what other people think. Always trust your heart and never feel guilty for it.
No matter what, remember that every encounter is holy. Every person is a reflection of you. As you change, move, and grow, the reflections around you also change. Embrace them!
There is no need to fearfully cling to relationships and friendships that are not working anymore. Rather, get excited about the new ones that are surely on their way. All changes are helpful.
I believe people are brought together for each person’s maximum spiritual growth. When the growth is done, it’s time to move on.
That spiritual growth could take two minutes, two weeks, two months, two years, or a lifetime. Either way, when the time comes, the most powerful thing we can do is allow ourselves to move on and trust that everything is happening exactly as it should.
Sometimes outside circumstances seemingly force our relationships to shift and move apart; other times it’s a decision you consciously make to walk away. However it happens, below are some ways you can move through changing relationships in the most positive and powerful way possible:
1. Don’t be afraid.
As you learn and grow, so do your friendships and relationships. I really noticed this when I started committing to a spiritual practice everyday. My circle of friends completely shifted. This is nothing to fear.
It’s not a “good” or “bad’ thing, but it’s important to understand that throughout our lives, people are going to fall away. And who knows, they might be back, but all you do know now is that you’ve learned all that you can from each other at this time.
When relationships and/or friendships end or shift, there is nothing to fear. Whether or not you realize it, everything always works out the way it’s meant to.
2. Take responsibility.
If the break-up was messy, or the friendship ended in a not so positive way, take responsibility for it. When you get to the point where you no longer blame someone else for how you feel, miraculous shifts occur.
I often turn to my inner guide, the voice for love within me, and ask, “What is the spiritual lesson here?” Your power is always hidden behind the people and circumstance that disturb you the most.
As some of my recent friendships evolved and fell away, I’ve discovered areas within myself that needed to be healed. The purpose of the relationship or the friendship was to show me those areas. Relationships can be amazing tools that catapult us to another level of peace and love.
3. Trust that you always have everyone you need.
This tiny idea can bring massive amounts of peace to your day. What if you woke up every morning knowing that every person you needed that day would be brought to you?
I try and start my day with this idea because I immediately stop trying to control my reality, and instead, trust in my inner guidance a whole lot more.
There is no one missing from this moment whom you need right now. If you’re sitting in a chair with no other bodies around, that’s because in this moment, your soul does not need anyone else to learn from.
4. Get ready for new friendships and relationships.
When you create the space for friendships and relationships that are not working to fall away, get ready, because new people who are more in-line with what your soul most needs to learn are on their way! This only becomes a fearful process when you forget that you’re always guided and that everything happens for you, not to you.
5. Release your guilt.
As I got more and more committed to praying, connecting to my true self, and meditating, I felt deep in my heart it was time for me to make some shifts in my outer world. That decision involved moving across the entire country, far away from family and all my friends.
At first, a few of my close friends couldn’t understand why I was leaving, and for a brief moment I felt guilty about it. But I had to follow my path and trust that new people and experiences were on their way.
Other people may not understand why you’re making the decision to move on, but that doesn’t matter. You can’t control what other people think. Always trust your heart and never feel guilty for it.
No matter what, remember that every encounter is holy. Every person is a reflection of you. As you change, move, and grow, the reflections around you also change. Embrace them!
There is no need to fearfully cling to relationships and friendships that are not working anymore. Rather, get excited about the new ones that are surely on their way. All changes are helpful.
Monday, July 8, 2013
Friday, June 14, 2013
HIGH 6/14/13
Off life. Love. The people in my life. How beautiful is recovery. How quick it can come.
Love - you are my healer. Thankful for all the amazing people in my life.
JESSICA IS BACK!!! WATCH OUT!
Proud.
Love - you are my healer. Thankful for all the amazing people in my life.
JESSICA IS BACK!!! WATCH OUT!
Proud.
Tuesday, June 11, 2013
Friend's healing...
I love you J.R. there when I need you!
“What are you going to do with your life?" In one way or another it seemed that people had been asking her this forever; teachers, her parents, friends at three in the morning, but the question had never seemed this pressing and still she was no nearer an answer... "Live each day as if it's your last', that was the conventional advice, but really, who had the energy for that? What if it rained or you felt a bit glandy? It just wasn't practical. Better by far to be good and courageous and bold and to make difference. Not change the world exactly, but the bit around you. Cherish your friends, stay true to your principles, live passionately and fully and well. Experience new things. Love and be loved, if you ever get the chance.”
your love heals me. So grateful.
All we need sometimes is a little love and motivation from a friend.
“What are you going to do with your life?" In one way or another it seemed that people had been asking her this forever; teachers, her parents, friends at three in the morning, but the question had never seemed this pressing and still she was no nearer an answer... "Live each day as if it's your last', that was the conventional advice, but really, who had the energy for that? What if it rained or you felt a bit glandy? It just wasn't practical. Better by far to be good and courageous and bold and to make difference. Not change the world exactly, but the bit around you. Cherish your friends, stay true to your principles, live passionately and fully and well. Experience new things. Love and be loved, if you ever get the chance.”
your love heals me. So grateful.
All we need sometimes is a little love and motivation from a friend.
Wednesday, May 15, 2013
Friend that is always there.... Thank you for keeping me sane and supported D.A.
i'm hugging u right now
at least it feels
it's okay to be sad
or hurt...part of being alive
There's a lot of love in this world. There' a lot of love available to everybody. Sometimes what it takes is stop doing the things that you think are necessary in order to get other people to love you. Then you are going to find out how much love there really is, all around you.
just breathe deep
turn off your brain and stop doing and start asking for what you want
the universe has infinite love to give you
at least it feels
it's okay to be sad
or hurt...part of being alive
There's a lot of love in this world. There' a lot of love available to everybody. Sometimes what it takes is stop doing the things that you think are necessary in order to get other people to love you. Then you are going to find out how much love there really is, all around you.
just breathe deep
turn off your brain and stop doing and start asking for what you want
the universe has infinite love to give you
Sunday, May 5, 2013
Tuesday, April 30, 2013
Monday, April 8, 2013
4/7/13 Talk w/ friend
Amazing 3.5 hour talk. Soul connection. Sharing life experience. I hope she sees her light. I want to help her see her light.
<3
Grateful,
Jess
<3
Grateful,
Jess
Friday, April 5, 2013
Thursday, March 28, 2013
3/28/13 Good day
What a great day beyond the muck of my brain. Woke up in a close and lovely friend's home to have her home to myself in Pacific Beach. I had full access to Netflix and proceeded to watch a film on street art. I ate some grapes, drank coffee, and looked through a book about traveling in New York City. Then I was inspired and used her straightener and makeup and did myself all purty. I also wore my friend's clothes that were much more fabulous than how I usually dress. I felt beautiful.
Then I went to the bay by her house and sat, thank, and took photos of myself. I took in the air and water.
Then I walked about 2 miles to Mission Beach. I went and sat in the sand for a little while, pulling my shirt down to tan my shoulders. It was such a beautiful day. I love feeling the heat of the sun. It is like a drug and provides me so much internal and external warmth and energy.
Then I walked back to Pacific Beach and went into a shoe store. I got five pairs of shoes for teaching - really scoring.
Then I went to Buffalo Exchange. I literally said out loud when I got there, "Uh. I don't want to shop right now!" I was complaining about the privilege and gift of shopping. Well, I got an even greater gift inside that has never happened to me when trying on 9 articles of clothing - they all ended up fitting and working! I got them all! To know something about me, I struggle getting new clothes and shoes. I am picky and things just don't tend to fit right. It was wonderful.
Then I went into Fred's Mexican Cafe and talked to my kind waiter for about 7 minutes to figure out how we can make their veggie burrito vegan (the rice were cooked in chicken broth, etc). It was also happy hour so in the meantime it was being prepared, I had myself a blended House margarita as I sat looking through the window towards the road. I was skimming more through my friend's book on New York. My phone was also dying so I had to figure out a way to get home.
My burrito came out and I happily ate my custom-made meal. I talked on the phone with my lovely friend who hosted me so kindly, and she gave me great advice that pushed me forward - pushed me forward just to be happy. It was a moment for me, and I have been happier 7 hours since that conversation and life already has a whole new glow. I just have to keep it up.
It's been a great day because I took time to be in nature, ease my mind, take in the sun, buy things for myself I will need for my interview, summer of training, and once I'm a teacher. I'm also happier now and feeling more liberated and in connection with my friends. Spent a bit today reconnecting with wonderful souls I am blessed to know. They filled me with love, support, kind words, and happiness.
Life is good.
~Jess
Then I went to the bay by her house and sat, thank, and took photos of myself. I took in the air and water.
Then I walked about 2 miles to Mission Beach. I went and sat in the sand for a little while, pulling my shirt down to tan my shoulders. It was such a beautiful day. I love feeling the heat of the sun. It is like a drug and provides me so much internal and external warmth and energy.
Then I walked back to Pacific Beach and went into a shoe store. I got five pairs of shoes for teaching - really scoring.
Then I went to Buffalo Exchange. I literally said out loud when I got there, "Uh. I don't want to shop right now!" I was complaining about the privilege and gift of shopping. Well, I got an even greater gift inside that has never happened to me when trying on 9 articles of clothing - they all ended up fitting and working! I got them all! To know something about me, I struggle getting new clothes and shoes. I am picky and things just don't tend to fit right. It was wonderful.
Then I went into Fred's Mexican Cafe and talked to my kind waiter for about 7 minutes to figure out how we can make their veggie burrito vegan (the rice were cooked in chicken broth, etc). It was also happy hour so in the meantime it was being prepared, I had myself a blended House margarita as I sat looking through the window towards the road. I was skimming more through my friend's book on New York. My phone was also dying so I had to figure out a way to get home.
My burrito came out and I happily ate my custom-made meal. I talked on the phone with my lovely friend who hosted me so kindly, and she gave me great advice that pushed me forward - pushed me forward just to be happy. It was a moment for me, and I have been happier 7 hours since that conversation and life already has a whole new glow. I just have to keep it up.
It's been a great day because I took time to be in nature, ease my mind, take in the sun, buy things for myself I will need for my interview, summer of training, and once I'm a teacher. I'm also happier now and feeling more liberated and in connection with my friends. Spent a bit today reconnecting with wonderful souls I am blessed to know. They filled me with love, support, kind words, and happiness.
Life is good.
~Jess
Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Wednesday, March 20, 2013
Tuesday, March 19, 2013
Thinking negatively pretty much all day, dwelling on disappointment, dissatisfaction with friendships, literally just googled "How to deal with disappointment" and I get a call from a friend I have a beautiful connection with that I hung out with last too many months ago. Sometimes I don't understand how people care so much about each other and don't keep in touch, but it's something I'll just have to accept.
A call from this friend uplifted me, reminding me people do care, I care, and that reality is truly shaped by our internal world. This friend reminded me what it means to have an internal world that is colored and flowered and beautiful - he radiates that and he pushes me to be that way.
Thank you, dear friend, for pushing me forward and getting me a bit more out of this disappointment spell. I hope to figure out more what my emotions are telling me...
Lots of love,
Grateful for my friends,
Jess
A call from this friend uplifted me, reminding me people do care, I care, and that reality is truly shaped by our internal world. This friend reminded me what it means to have an internal world that is colored and flowered and beautiful - he radiates that and he pushes me to be that way.
Thank you, dear friend, for pushing me forward and getting me a bit more out of this disappointment spell. I hope to figure out more what my emotions are telling me...
Lots of love,
Grateful for my friends,
Jess
Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Hanging out with friends for...?
Enhancing the state of mind
--> again and again ---> profound transformation
--> again and again ---> profound transformation
Sunday, January 20, 2013
Emotional intimacy
Emotional intimacy can be expressed in verbal and non-verbal communication. The degree of comfort, effectiveness and mutual experience of closeness might indicate emotional intimacy between individuals. Intimate communication is both expressed (e.g. talking) and implied (e.g. friends sitting close on a park bench in silence). Emotional intimacy depends primarily on trust, as well as the nature of the relationship and the culture in which it is observed. Depending on the background and conventions of the participants, emotional intimacy might involve disclosing thoughts, feelings and emotions in order to reach an understanding, offer mutual support or build a sense of community. Or it might involve sharing a duty, without commentary.
Saturday, January 12, 2013
Wednesday, January 9, 2013
Friends carrying me through a rough time..
Dolores-
And remember you're turning it all around started with you.
Janelle-
We were created for community. We aren't meant to life alone.
And remember you're turning it all around started with you.
Janelle-
We were created for community. We aren't meant to life alone.
Vik, A Good Friend
Running and reading... Will Smith
It's in words somewhere out there.
It's not easy being strong. It's easy to be depressed and give up, but only the strong are successful.
It's in words somewhere out there.
It's not easy being strong. It's easy to be depressed and give up, but only the strong are successful.
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