“Spiritual seekers look for self-realization or enlightenment in the future. To be a seeker implies that you need the future. If this is what you believe, it becomes true for you: you will need time until you realize that you don't need time to be who you are.”
- Eckhart Tolle -

So grateful for you D.A. Always contacting me when I need it.

Youll be a really good mom and wife to someone.

Love you bud. Blessed by you.


"You're going to find a time when you think you cant pull through but you will be able too and you wont need anything outside of yourself to do it."

And you wont need to give up on love either

Ever

You might want to at times cuz its "easier" but you wont

"God's plan for your life
is not something you develop,
it's something you discover."

more perfection for me.

For security: Seek self-assurance
Rather than always looking to the other person to make you feel secure in your relationship, get into the habit of reassuring yourself. Start to challenge your own fears and imaginings rather than just accepting them. Ask yourself: "Hold on a second. What real evidence is there for this fear?" At the same time you can focus on the thought: "Okay, nothing in this life is certain and I can live with that. And even if this relationship did end, I'm strong enough to go through it and ride it and will have learnt things from it." We all need to go with the flow in relationships. What we fear will be 'the end of the world' if it happens never really is.

Sit down, close your eyes, and strongly imagine feeling relaxed and secure around your partner. This will train your brain to feel that "whatever happens, I'll be okay."

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Focus on the good
Relationships are meant to be fun (at least some of the time). Insecure people look for signs of what's not working. I want you to look for signs of what is.

Doing this will get you and your partner feeling naturally more positive.

No meaningful relationship will always totally work all the time. Being too black or white about relationships spells trouble. There are always some difficulties, but keep focusing on what is good.

This doesn't mean that you have to accept anyone who will accept you, even if they are obviously not right for you. But it does mean that if there are occasional problems, you don't have to 'throw the baby out with the bathwater' and become so destructive that the relationship ends or so clingy that your partner ends it for you.

Emma learned to relax and enjoy her relationship. She stopped feeling she had to control what her partner thought or did and her new laidback attitude made it easier for their love to genuinely blossom.

A good relationship is there for you to enjoy together, to share resources and develop together in healthy ways. If someone really does treat you badly or lies and cheats, then feeling insecure is a natural and justified response. However, if you're actually in a generally good relationship, then follow these tips because what you have is precious.

But possibly not as precious as the knowledge that whatever happens, you can relax because you'll be okay.

Van Jones and Winona LaDuke on “Zero Injustice: Redefining Sustainability”

I was here and it was awesome

SO far we've come. SO far to go.

TFA in Detroit

I am officially a new corps member in Detroit! Right now it's a bit difficult to get out of the pain my throbbing head, twitching left eye, stress-fractured foot, and pulled muscle behind my right knee, but I'll just say I am excited. I need some time to rest and process, and when healthy enough, to celebrate.

A new chapter has officially just begun.

The future is now.

Love,
Jess

MY GOALS/DREAMS

GOALS/DREAMS
Read at poetry readings
Be involved in the community I live in
My own place in NY with plants, bricks, decorations, everything I want it to be, plants inside
Eventually have a stable and good-paying job so I can support my parents
Be part of the hip-hop, graffiti community
Farm and go out in nature to get balance from the city
Winter with Tyler in Michigan
Espresso maker
Be involved in growing my own food- a community garden or other urban agriculture
Use my money resourcefully
Shop at a coop or local natural food store
Good pool of clothing
Live minimally
Don’t own a car
Get my PhD
Go on a trip with my family to Lithuania
Buy a vacation for my dad- to New Zealand or wherever he wants to go
Meet my brother in the UK and spend time with him and his fam
Travel in Europe
Be consistently clear-minded
Life-long fulfilling friendships
Close relationships with my family
Be married and have a beautiful union

Dreams

future?

How do you know what you will want in the future when you don't know what you want in the present?
How do you know you can commit four years or more to something?
Is it a privilege to think there could be some sense of security in choosing a future path?
How do you know when you are ready?
How do you know that you are strong enough?

Maybe,
It's about the ability to instead ...

ADAPT

be RESILIENT

and

PERSEVERE

through the doubts, opposition, and fluctuations

Having confidence, trust, faith, and support.
In fulfilling your dreams,
Once you figure your dreams out.

Contemplatively,
Jaybe

Future Calling (Not just a job)

Incredible article. I have been hoping to find something like this.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/brazen-life/10-careers-that-let-you-f_b_1586777.html