The fear of failure or failure itself is nothing compared to the bleak future of not growing, not stretching, and not going after my dreams.

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Know Fear v. No fear.
"Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world."
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here's your challenge for this week. Notice your fear. When do you not speak up because of fear? Not pursue an interest because of fear? Shut down an idea? Watch your choices. What do you shut down, turn away, or run from because you are afraid? Listen, if you wait until fear is no long present, you'll wait a lifetime. Surmounting your fear is about allowing the space to feel what you feel, but make choices based off what you really, truly desire. After you pick up on your fear stories, change the game. Don't let fear take you out. You got this.

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For security: Seek self-assurance
Rather than always looking to the other person to make you feel secure in your relationship, get into the habit of reassuring yourself. Start to challenge your own fears and imaginings rather than just accepting them. Ask yourself: "Hold on a second. What real evidence is there for this fear?" At the same time you can focus on the thought: "Okay, nothing in this life is certain and I can live with that. And even if this relationship did end, I'm strong enough to go through it and ride it and will have learnt things from it." We all need to go with the flow in relationships. What we fear will be 'the end of the world' if it happens never really is.

Sit down, close your eyes, and strongly imagine feeling relaxed and secure around your partner. This will train your brain to feel that "whatever happens, I'll be okay."

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Focus on the good
Relationships are meant to be fun (at least some of the time). Insecure people look for signs of what's not working. I want you to look for signs of what is.

Doing this will get you and your partner feeling naturally more positive.

No meaningful relationship will always totally work all the time. Being too black or white about relationships spells trouble. There are always some difficulties, but keep focusing on what is good.

This doesn't mean that you have to accept anyone who will accept you, even if they are obviously not right for you. But it does mean that if there are occasional problems, you don't have to 'throw the baby out with the bathwater' and become so destructive that the relationship ends or so clingy that your partner ends it for you.

Emma learned to relax and enjoy her relationship. She stopped feeling she had to control what her partner thought or did and her new laidback attitude made it easier for their love to genuinely blossom.

A good relationship is there for you to enjoy together, to share resources and develop together in healthy ways. If someone really does treat you badly or lies and cheats, then feeling insecure is a natural and justified response. However, if you're actually in a generally good relationship, then follow these tips because what you have is precious.

But possibly not as precious as the knowledge that whatever happens, you can relax because you'll be okay.

just wanted I needed... thankful for the benevolence of the Almighty

The good news is that fear is merely an illusion. Fear is something we invent. The only thing that gives it any power is when we listen to it.

So since we create fear, that means we can destroy it. Fear loses its power over us if we stop listening to it.

When it creeps into our head, we can acknowledge its presence, look for what we can learn from the fear message, thank it for its concerns, and then refuse to listen.

It’s a choice that we can make.

How empowering is that?

I am begging you to break the bondage of fear in your life and start to live your life free. Free to live and breathe your dreams and receive your blessings from the universe that loves you, and wants to help you be successful and happy. This freedom can be acquired and granted to us through TRUST.

When we decide to trust in the universe, we create a sacred space that surrounds us like a shield that keeps the fear out.

When we trust—no matter what—that...
-Everything will be OK.
-Everything will work out fantastically if we walk our unique paths toward our dreams.
-We will be led to add our own unique talent to the world.
... then fears melts away.

Once we start trusting, and commit to trusting, life begins to really open up. We are like roses unfolding in bloom.

When you are trusting the universe, you feel lighter. You feel beautiful. You begin walking with passion and purpose. And you feel great because you know the universe has your back.

It feels amazing. It makes you feel like a kid again.

Remember when you were a child and you didn’t have to worry about anything? Without worrying about it, you were automatically clothed, and fed, and had a roof over your head. All you cared about was where you were going to ride your bike, the next neighborhood game, who would be available to play the next day, where to build your fort….

When you decide to trust in the universe to lead you on your way and take care of you, your playful nature is restored. When you opt to trust, the universe swallows up your worries. And your troubles. And LET'S YOU PLAY!

You are free to play when you have no worries. It’s the greatest feeling!

If I wake up on any given day with a heavy heart and feel the blues because the very thought of certain situations in my life and the uncertainties surrounding them are serving me pillaging thoughts of angst and worry--that is a clear indication that my trust in the universe is currently low. Instead of continuing down that self-destructive process of thought, I can stop myself right there, close my eyes, and start breathing.

As I slowly inhale, I breathe in trust, and slowly exhale fear. I breathe in trust, and bring it down into the bottom of my stomach and then alllllll the way down to my toes. As I exhale fear, I expel it from my lungs.

I continue to do this simple meditation exercise until I can feel the energy shift within and around me. I draw in light to myself as I focus on and renew my trust in my higher power.

After I am centered, I move into my day with positive energy and a knowing that everything is going to be alright. If I feel myself start to slip back into those mopey feelings, I begin to breathe in trust all over again, until the feeling subsides.

I would love to know how this meditation works for you! I would also like to know if there are any other exercises you do to renew your trust with the universe.

Get rid of the fear illusions, friends. Lighten your load of worries by trusting in the benevolence of our universe.

Bliss out and go play!

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-6728/An-Exercise-to-Get-Rid-of-Fear-and-Start-Trusting-the-Universe.html

"Fear is faith that it won't work out."
~Sister Mary Tricky

Last night. 3.14.13
I don't think I've every cried like that. Anger were the shower of bullets coming from tears. I frantically wrote out my feelings and stained my sheet with my tears and snot before falling asleep.

I woke up in my sleep, fully conscious when it was still dark, awoken by the fear aroused in my dream. I woke to look all around me, on alert, before falling back asleep.

I woke up close to 9am again, realizing how deep my sleep was to bypass two alarms, bag around eyes swollen like raccoons.

I awoke to brush my do my morning salutation yoga outside in the sun, brush my teeth, play Common's tracks, and do a 7-minute morning work-out with Dr. Oz.

Life.

"Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it." - Bill Cosby.

When you want to accomplish something, you lose your sense of fear.